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Unraveling the Gender Knot


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A course for Unitarian Universalist adults and youths and our friends, published by UUWR in 2004. Topics in the seven two-hour sessions include gender, religion, feminism, economics, invisibility and denial, and how to challenge the patriarchal system.

Participants and co-leaders:

  • Examine religious writings that influence our beliefs about women and men
  • Study how the patriarchal system shapes women and men
  • Identify and practice confronting patriarchal actions by organizations, other people, and ourselves

Participants learn that:

  • We are not responsible for our inherited patriarchal system, and we participate in it.
  • Paths of least resistance are easy to take and hard to recognize.
  • We can change our attitudes and behavior, and can influence others.

Course materials include a 100-page detailed course guide for co-leaders with handouts for participants. Also obtain two documentary films: Who's Counting? Marilyn Waring on Sex, Lies and Global Economics (National Film Board of Canada, 1995) and The Gods of Our Fathers (Green Lion Productions, 1994). Links are below.

The course reference book is The Gender Knot: Unraveling Our Patriarchal Legacy, by Allan G. Johnson. The 3rd edition of The Gender Knot includes a new chapter on the causes and social invisibility of men’s violence. It is also available as an audiobook.

"The Gender Knot, Allan G. Johnson’s response to the pain and confusion that men and women experience by living with gender inequality, explains what patriarchy is and isn’t, how it works, and what gets in the way of understanding and doing something about it. Johnson’s simple yet powerful approach avoids the paralyzing trap of guilt, blame, anger, and defensive denial that often result from conversations about gender. He shows how we all participate in an oppressive system we didn’t create and how each of us can contribute towards its dissolution. He argues persuasively that something much better is possible and that our individual choices matter more than we can ever know.” (Amazon.com)


In this feature-length documentary, Marilyn Waring demystifies the language of economics by defining it as a value system in which all goods and activities are related only to their monetary value. As a result, unpaid work (usually performed by women) is unrecognized while activities that may be environmentally and socially detrimental are deemed productive. Waring maps out an alternative vision based on the idea of time as the new currency.

Watch it online via the National Film Board of Canada:


Or you can download it here (there is a charge):


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The Human Race Series

The Gods of Our Fathers

There is nothing innate in patriarchy and militarism. We can change our culture.
51 minutes; Closed Captioned
Directed by Anne Henderson
Produced by Catherine Mullins & Marrin Canell
Green Lion Productions -- Hosted by Gwynne Dyer

Human nature is not fixed. We can and do reshape ourselves every time we change our culture. Nor is there anything natural or innate in male domination.

Host Gwynne Dyer explores the evolution of patriarchy and the subsequent rise of militarism in ancient Egypt. In ancient villages along the Nile, patriarchy was adopted as one effective way of organizing mass societies. But the world is different now, and it's time to find alternatives to hierarchies and militarization.

"Male domination is not natural, and neither is equality of the sexes -- it all depends. Same goes for whether we are warlike or peaceful, democratic or authoritarian. Change the way we live, and you may also change the way we behave toward each other." Gywnne Dyer


Find more information at the National Film Board of Canada website:



Or try YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGTrnYzDCsU


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More details ...

The course was developed by two Unitarian Universalists: Barbara G. Schonborn, PhD, a course developer and teacher of teachers; Rosemary Matson, BA, a writer, lecturer, and activist leader; and their friend and colleague the late Alison Campbell, MA, a teacher and writer.

Course development was supported by:

  • Unitarian Sunday School Society
  • Fund for Unitarian Universalism
  • Margaret Fuller Award Committee of the UU Women’s Federation
  • Alison Ely Campbell Memorial Fund
  • UU Women & Religion

Members and friends in 20 UU congregations pilot-tested the course.

Session Topics

Orientation Meeting (recommended)


Session 1. Gender and the Patriarchal System

  1. Welcome and Introductions
  2. How We Got Our Genders: An Activity
  3. Purposes of the Course
  4. The UUA Women and Religion Resolution and Seeds of Change
  5. What is the Patriarchal System?
  6. Paths of Least Resistance

Session 2. Religion and the Patriarchal System

  1. Religious Literature (Heroes, Issues of Sexuality, Reproduction)
  2. Religious Institutions and Decision-Making Power
  3. Writers and Interpreters of Religious Literature
  4. Historical Background
  5. Women and Men Objecting and Reinterpreting

Session 3. Feminism and the Patriarchal System

  1. Definitions of Feminism
  2. Backlash Against Feminism
  3. Three Strands of Feminism
  4. Supporting One Another in Working for Change

Session 4. (optional: 2 sessions) Economics and the Patriarchal System

Film Who’s Counting? Marilyn Waring on Sex, Lies and Global Economics

  1. Gross Domestic Product Figures Recognize No Value But Money
  2. Unpaid Work is Discounted
  3. Destructive Activities are Valued If They Generate Cash Flow; No Debit Side
  4. Non-Monetary Human Values are Not Recognized
  5. Time-Use Data Indicate
  6. Communities’ Needs
  7. Discussion of the Film, and Evidence of the Patriarchal System

Session 5. Thinking About Patriarchy

  1. Is Patriarchy Essential?
  2. Military Service and War
  3. Work in the Patriarchal System
  4. Sex in the Patriarchal System
  5. Film The Gods of Our Fathers

Session 6. Invisibility and Denial

  1. Invisibility of Women and Men
  2. Invisibility of Male Violence
  3. Denial of the Patriarchal System
  4. Woman Power

Session 7. How to Challenge the Patriarchal Syst

  1. Taking Responsibility
  2. How To Make Change
  3. What’s In It For Me?


Questions? Ask …

Barbara Schonborn

1963 Rock St #19
Mountain View, CA 94043-2513


Tel: (650) 967-6756


Sample Activity:The Wall Falls Down (in Session 5)

ASK the group to name barriers to changing the patriarchal system. Write the list on a flip chart or board. (4 minutes)

INVITE participants to write one barrier on a 3x5 or 4 x 6 card. It’s okay if two or more participants select the same barrier. (2 minutes)

ASK participants to write on the back of their card one thing (or more) they can do to make the barrier fall. (5 minutes)

ASK participants to stand as they are able, take their cards with them, and align themselves to form a wall. The wall may encircle the room.
(2 minutes to get in position)

INVITE participants to name their barrier and tell what they can do to make the barrier fall. (Any sequence is fine.)

After each participant speaks, ASK that participant to sit down, or move away from the wall. LEAD the group in chanting once, “The wall falls down!”

After all participants have sat down, the barriers, or walls, will be gone in imagination.

ASK: How do you feel about the barriers?
About your actions?

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