Joseph Priestley District

Women & Religion Fall Retreat

October 1-3, 2010

at St. Raphaela Center, Haverford, Pa.

for pictures and directions, go to www.acjusa.org

The Theme Within:

an experiential weekend of self-discovery.

Intuitively access your inner wisdom through the process of collage.

Facilitated by Dana Knighten and Nancy Evans,

certified Soul Collage facilitators

www.soulcollage.com

 For Women 16 and older
10% discount for those under 25
3 nights, 6 meals (Friday Dinner through Sunday Lunch) $200.
Commuters (includes 4 meals) $165

 Please print out and post/share flyer! (PDF)

For further information contact:
Anne Slater, Registrar
610-896-6468
slater.anne [at] gmail.com

Print and mail Registration Form! (PDF)

The Theme Within

JPD W & R Retreat 2010 Registration

Register early:  space is limited!

Please PRINT FORM, FILL IN SPACES, MAIL W/CHECK to Anne (see below)

Name (please print)
____________________________________________________________________

Address_____________________________________________________________

Phone (home) _____________________(cell) ______________________________

Email _______________________________________________________________

Your Church _________________________________________________________

I can bring a drum/other musical instrument (just for fun!) _____________________

Please indicate here _____ if you require first-floor accommodation.

I am/am not (circle one) a vegetarian.

Special dietary circumstances? (Example: gluten or lactose intolerant; specific allergies)

_____________________________________________________________________

The Money Part: Retreat Rates and Opportunity

Rates  for food and lodging are what the site charges

Commuter meals include Friday supper, Saturday lunch and supper, Sunday lunch

Resident $140 (includes two nights and 6 meals )           $_________

Commuter $105.00 (includes 4 meals)                              $_________

Registration: $60.00 (our costs)                                            $___60____

My gift to help another woman attend                                 $_________

GRAND TOTAL (add lines above)……………………          $_________

Please make your check payable to:  Joseph Priestley District,
marking in the memo section “W & R Retreat”

*******Payment must be received by September 25th, 2010******

Mail to: Anne Slater, 2753 Morris Road, Ardmore, PA 19003

I will acknowledge receipt of your registration and check via email

Subject to Minor Change

Friday p.m., September 30

4:30 – 5:15           Arrival// Silent Auction Set Up (all)

6:15—7:00            Dinner (Up the hill in the Dining Hall)

7:00—7:15            Welcome and introduction by Laura of the JPD W&R circle and Retreat Center rep;

7:15—8:00            Opening Ritual by Heather  w/ altar contributions by participants

8:00—9:00            Workshop #1 by Heather   -  Why Women Need the Goddess

9:00 — 10:00        Social Time

Saturday, October 1

7:15—7:45            Silent Zen Walk with Alix; Gentle Yoga stretching exercises with Laura

7:45—8:30            Breakfast (Dining Hall)

9:00—9:15            Background of  Women & Religion by Anne

9:15—12:00          Workshop #2 by Anne and Sherri – Introduction to the World’s Goddesses;

Putting Your Goddess into Words w/ one break

12:00—1:00          Lunch (Dining Hall)

1:00 —3:00           Free Time

3:00—5:00            Workshop #3 by  Sherri: Meditation: Inner Guide/Wise Self/Spirit Guide Imagery; and

Alix – Making Your Goddess in Clay w/ one break

5:30—6:30           Dinner (Dining Hall)

6:30—8:00           Workshop #4 by Laura – Body Prayer and Introducing Your Goddess (participants)

8:00—10pm     Drumming Circle, Social time with Serpent Cake, Goddess songs led by Laura Paligo and others, perhaps by YOU!!!

9:30 pm               Silent Auction Closes

Sunday, October 2

7:15—7:45            Gentle Yoga stretching exercises with Laura

7:45—8:30            Breakfast  (Dining Hall) and paying for silent auction items in Dining Hall with Alix

8:30—9:15            Packing 

9:30—10:45          Closing Workshop by Heather Circle in a Circle and Blessing of the Goddesses

10:45—11            Break

11—12            Worship service by  TBA  In the Old Chapel (tba)

12:15               Lunch and farewell (Dining Hall and Meeting Rooms)

Black Beans and Corn with Green Chiles

1 can (15 oz) of black beans
1 cup (frozen or canned) corn kernels
1 small can (4 oz.) of chopped green chiles
1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil
1 Tbsp (or more) fresh, chopped cilantro (coriander)
pinch of kosher salt
fresh ground black pepper
fresh lime or lemon juice (optional)

Pour can of beans into a strainer set over the sink; add frozen corn to the beans in the strainer. If necessary, run warm water over the beans and corn until the beans are well-rinsed and the corn is mostly thawed. Put beans, corn, and chiles into a microwave safe bowl and heat in the microwave on high, just until warmed through. Add olive oil, cilantro, and salt and pepper to taste. Mix well. Add a quick squeeze of lime or lemon juice, if desired. Stir again, and serve with cornbread.

Yield: four servings, as a side dish

Please go to this website http://www.drumminguphope.org/
for information on a drumming circle on Sunday, January 31 in Baltimore, Md.
Fund raiser for Haitian earthquake survivors. Same wonderful leadership as the March 13th Drumming Circle in Devon

The new curriculum “Becoming Women of Wisdom: Marking the Passage into the Crone Years” may now be purchased!

Some of you saw a proof of the program or participated in a workshop at the International Convocation of U*U Women. This new "croning" curriculum may be ordered now.

Download the flyer at the UU Women & Religion online store at http://www.uuwr.org. Click on STORE in the left side menu.

This curriculum in 13 circles is designed to prepare women who are entering or have passed through menopause to take on the important role of Crone/Wise Women in their communities and to  participate in a ritual celebrating becoming a woman of wisdom.  The program helps open the participant  to the power, wisdom, and insight of the mature self. 

Imagine entering the labyrinth of your psyche, slowly following its turns in and out as you weave yourself toward the deep center of your essential knowing.  As you make your way forward, you remember the past, integrate its  lessons and shed its excess baggage, until you come to the present moment of  possibility and transformation. 

There you claim the beauty and truth that can be yours and begin your walk out of the labyrinth, integrating your new found knowledge and the thirteen guiding principles of a crone as you retrace your steps.

Before you reemerge into the world, you celebrate your new state and assume the crown and mantle of  the crone. As a mature woman of action and compassion, you claim your power as a woman of wisdom.

The curriculum was written by Melody Lee, in collaboration with co-creators Karen Edwards and Dorothy Emerson. For more information, please contact Dorothy at Rainbow Solutions, 781-391-6455 or RevEmerson@aol.com.

Joseph Priestley District Women and Religion
and Soul Sisters of the Main Line Unitarian Church

are pleased to present

A Drumming Workshop 

Saturday, March 13, 2010 from 10am to 3pm

at the Main Line Unitarian Church
816 Valley Forge Road, Devon PA 19333

(For directions go to mluc.org)

Jaqui McMillan of Drum for Joy! will be our workshop leader.

“If you can say it, you can play it”… 

In this Drum For Joy! workshop you will learn the language of the drum, basic hand drum technique and how to make your drum sing. Jaqui presents drum songs in a way that make it fun and easy to learn. This workshop is suitable for beginning and experienced drummers.

Bring your own drum or percussion instrument. Jaqui will also bring some to share.

Bring a friend or neighbour, your sister, daughter or granddaughter over 10 years

Bring a bag lunch: drinks and dessert will be provided.

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SAVE $5! Advance registration and payment (mail by March 1, 2010)

Advance Tix: $20 per person, $10 for your guest under 16 years

At the door, $25 for adults, $15 for 16 and under

Send your check made out to The JPD of the UUA to

Laura Paligo, 298 Superior Street, Havre de Grace, MD 21078

Questions? call Laura at 410-942-1292 BEFORE 8 pm

JPD Women and Religion and the women of the Unitarian Church of Harrisburg present

Tammi Hessen
http://www.tammihessen.com
will be our Drum out the Doldrums facilitator on
March 19th (10 am to 2 pm) at the
Unitarian Church of Harrisburg.

further information HERE as it becomes available

Drum out the Doldrums!  Beat away the Blahs!

The Facilitators’ Circle of the Joseph Priestley District Women and Religion

and the Unitarian Church of Harrisburg, PA

invite you and the women of your congregation to

A Drumming Circle for Women

On Saturday, March 19, 2011

Join Tammi Hessen of Bumbuda

www.tammihessen.com

10 am to 2 pm on

Saturday, March 19, 2011,

at the Unitarian Church of Harrisburg

1280 Clover Lane Harrisburg, PA

Bring your sister, daughter or granddaughter over 10 years, a friend or neighbor to join you in learning the rhythms and sounds of the African traditions of drumming and whole-body involvement as a way to shake out unhappiness and suck in the unbridled joy of celebrating life!

Pack a brown bag lunch (drinks and snacks will be provided), wear loose clothes and comfortable shoes and bring your own hand-held rhythm or percussion instrument.  If you don’t own one, Tammi will provide instruments for you to use. Enjoy hours of drumming, dancing, and movement designed to imbue you with a happy, healthy spirit.

Advance registration and payment (mail by March 4th)

$20 per person, $15 for your guest under 16 years;

At the door, $25 for adults, $20 for 16 and under

Space limits us to 50 participants: sign up and pay now to be sure of your place!

Babysitting will be available for pre-registrants only!!!

Please advise, with your registration, the number of children you are bringing and their ages.

Send your check made out to The JPD of the UUA to

Mary Ann Rhoads ... Harrisburg PA 17110

Questions? Contact Randa

Directions See www.Harrisburg uu.org OR see below

From Philadelphia

76 Turnpike West, Take exit 247 to merge onto I-283 N toward PA-283/Harrisburg/Hershey, Take exit 2 for PA-441 N, Turn left at PA-441 N/Lindle Rd , Take the 1st right onto Eisenhower Blvd,   Take the 1st left onto Clover Ln/Meadow Ln

From Lancaster

PA-283 W (signs for Harrisburg), Take the exit onto I-283 N toward I-81/I-83/Harrisburg  Take exit 2 for PA-441 N, Turn left at PA-441 N/Lindle Rd, Take the 1st right onto Eisenhower Blvd, Take the 1st left onto Clover Ln/Meadow Ln

From Baltimore

I-83 N Entering Pennsylvania, Take exit 46A to merge onto I-283 S toward I-76/Airport/Lancaster, Take exit 2 for PA-441 toward Swatara,  Keep right at the fork, follow signs for WI-441 N, Turn right at PA-441 N/Lindle Rd,  Take the 1st right onto Eisenhower Blvd, Take the 1st left onto Clover Ln/Meadow Ln

Laura Paligo, co-convenor, librarian, UU Fellowship of Harford County, Churchville, MD

Randa Todd, co-convenor, Unitarian Church of Harrisburg, PA

Margaret Bakker, UU Congregation of Wyoming Valley, Wilkes-Barre, PA

Alix Berenzy, UU Church of Germantown, Philadelphia, PA

Nuala Carpenter, Main Line Unitarian Church, Devon, PA

Heather Gehron-Rice, MDiv, UU Church of Lancaster, PA

Chris Higgins, UU Fellowship of Lower Bucks, Fairless Hills, PA

Anne Mason, UU Church of Lancaster, Lancaster, PA

Lois Morrigan, UU Church of Delaware County, Media, PA

Sherri Philpott, UU Cong. of Frederick, MD, and the UU Cong. of Loudoun, Leesburg, VA.

Anne Slater, news & newsletter, 1st Unitarian Church of  Philadelphia, PA

a sermon delivered by Heather Gehron-Rice, M Div, at the UU Church of Delaware County on February 1, 2009

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I didn’t always know a lot about autism. My first exposure, as might have been yours, was the movie Rain Man.

A father dies, the younger son is angry that his only inheritance is a car and a bed of roses. Three million dollars goes into a trust fund for someone. In his quest to right the perceived injustice, he finds his older brother, Raymond, and solves the mystery of the Rain Man from his youth. Raymond is an autistic savant, or has Asperger’s Syndrome.  He is brilliant with numbers, has a photographic memory and completely lacks any connection to what we call “The Real World”.
 
My personal introduction to autism came on the 4th of June 1998.

Benjamin came into the world screaming, and kept on screaming. As we experienced behaviors that were strange, inexplicable and exhausting, we struggled to find out what was wrong. In 2003 his preschool teacher at the Lancaster Cooperative School told us we should contact the IU-13 to set up an evaluation. When I asked her why, she couldn’t say anything more. For various reasons, the IU-13 evaluation didn’t happen. In the meantime, my therapist and I had narrowed his behaviors to those characteristic of both bipolar and autism. We needed to find a child psychiatrist.

We made an appointment and I filled out an overwhelming amount of paperwork. When we checked in for the appointment, we found out that they never received the paperwork and the appointment had been cancelled. I stood there, crying, devastated and enraged. I had been living for this appointment, struggling through every day trying to make sense of these foreign behaviors from this little boy who had come through my body.

I struggled not to take it out on the receptionist, but I didn’t do a very good job. Another psychiatrist overheard the problem and offered to cut short his lunch break to fit us in. The diagnosis was Pervasive Developmental Delay, Aspergers, Autism. I walked away from that appointment with a list of recommended reading. On the way out, I apologized to the receptionist.

My preferred coping mechanism is sarcasm; when that just won’t suffice, excessive research is my next line of defense. As soon as we got home, I ordered the books. While I waited for the books to arrive, I researched autism and Aspergers on the Internet. I spent hours and hours reading, and learned that there are as many theories about what causes autism as there are manifestations of autism. Diet, vaccinations, chemicals and environment are just a few. Much as I would like any one of those to be the elusive answer to the mystery of autism, it doesn’t seem likely. The Autism Advocate, a quarterly publication of the Autism Society of America, estimated that in China, India, US, UK, Mexico, the Philippines and Thailand combined there were almost 5 million people living with some form of autism in 2007. Only 1.5 million live in the US.

What is autism you ask? According to the Autism Society of America “Autism is a complex developmental disability that typically appears during the first three years of life and affects a person’s ability to communicate and interact with others. Autism is defined by a certain set of behaviors and is a "spectrum disorder" that affects individuals differently and to varying degrees. There is no known single cause for autism, but increased awareness and funding can help families today.”

“Currently, ASA estimates that the lifetime cost of caring for a child with autism ranges from $3.5 million to $5 million, and that the United States is facing almost $90 billion annually in costs for autism (this figure includes research, insurance costs and non-covered expenses, Medicaid waivers for autism, educational spending, housing, transportation, employment, in addition to related therapeutic services and caregiver costs).”

We hear a lot of negative things about autism in the media – on airplanes, in churches, schools, from police and fire departments who lack the skills, inclination and training to support people who don’t understand the unwritten rules for any society and can’t learn them by osmosis.

“Temple Grandin is inarguably the most accomplished and well-known adult with autism in the world. Dr. Grandin didn't speak until she was three and a half years old. In 1950, she was labeled "autistic," and her parents were told she should be institutionalized.” Her book Thinking in Pictures allows a glimpse into the mind of someone who lives with autism and wouldn’t want to lose her abilities. “I think in pictures. Words are like a second language to me. …One of the most profound mysteries of autism has been the remarkable ability of most autistic people to excel at visual spatial skills while performing so poorly at verbal skills. When I was a child and teenager, I thought everybody thought in pictures. I had no idea that my thought processes were different. In fact, I did not realize the full extent of the differences until very recently.”

Now, I’m a verbal thinker. I can’t imagine thinking in pictures. It took me quite some time to figure out how to explain the frustrations and difficulties that Benjamin faces with communication. I finally stumbled upon an image that I find useful. Imagine that we live in a society that speaks Swahili. One of every 150 people does not speak Swahili and does not have a Swahili/English dictionary and doesn’t know the customs. The simplest daily interactions become difficult and frustrating.

Thursday night was awful. Andrew, Benjamin’s older brother, was upset because we wouldn’t give him quarters for a five dollar bill. He was hysterical, which means Benjamin is upset. Upset for these two isn’t pretty. Punches were thrown, objects were thrown and people were bitten. At one point, Doug, my husband, was in the dining room restraining Benjamin and I was in the living room restraining Andrew. Half an hour later Benjamin was violently sobbing on the futon. He was trying to tell me something about a bank taking your money. Ten minutes later, he got through to me that the five dollar bill Andrew had was a gift and if the bank took it, they wouldn’t give him that same five dollar bill. I was stunned. Most kids see a five dollar bill for the monetary value; he saw that specific bill as the gift.

There are many beautiful stories in The Myriad Gifts of Aspergers. As I was reading these vignettes, I came across stories that reminded me of Benjamin.

Vaschel the Liberator tells of an 11 year old boy whose parents were perplexed about how he was spending his allowance. It turns out he was buying and donating bags of dog food to the local animal shelter. Thanksgiving of 2006, we were watching Animal Planet. The APSCA was running commercials all day long for donations. At one point, Benjamin informed Doug and me that he was donating his Christmas money to the ASPCA. We offered to match his donation, not really expecting that he would still want to. To our chagrin, we talked him down from a $25 donation because we weren’t expecting him to want to donate so much of his money. To this day, he takes issues of animal welfare very seriously.

The Community Patriot tells of a nine-year-old who appointed himself the flag police after September 11th. He gathered his “flag enforcement kit” and went around the neighborhood either commending people for properly displaying the flag, or educating them on proper flag etiquette. Following Hurricane Katrina, Benjamin was obsessed with wanting to help. His school was collecting supplies for Hurricane buckets because his class had a car wash fundraiser. Benjamin repeatedly came up with ideas about how he could earn money to send to Katrina, and signs appeared all over our house.

The Auto Salesman is a seven-year-old who seems to have memorized Consumer Reports auto issues, including the strengths and inherent flaws in each. Benjamin was obsessed with airbags. He was very upset when I replaced my 1984 Volvo station wagon without airbags for a 2002 Saturn with airbags because he couldn’t sit in the passenger’s seat. When he would ask questions about my car, I handed him the owner’s manual and after he finished his research, he would hold it on his lap.

The Anti-Smoking Vigilante is about a nine-year-old girl who was so adamant about not smoking that friends, relatives and family members would hide their cigarettes and sneak outside. She had pamphlets and brochures with her at all times to hand out to anyone she came across who was smoking. Benjamin has been trying to get one of our family friends to stop smoking for quite a few years now. When I went to Turkey and Lebanon for seminary, I brought back a No Smoking sign in Arabic; I think that was his favorite gift.

The collection of stories about the positive things that people are able to accomplish only because they have autism is truly astounding. As the mother of a child who is still struggling to find his way in this world he does not seem to understand, these stories give me hope.

The first chapter of The Soul of Autism: Looking Beyond Labels to Unveil Spiritual Secrets of the Heart Savants is entitled The World Needs Autism. We need autism because of their unique perspectives. What would the world be like without Einstein or music without Mozart? Would we still be using candles without Thomas Edison? Perhaps we would still be riding horses without Henry Ford. Who but Thomas Jefferson could have written the Declaration of Independence? Would we all have Macs if it weren’t for Bill Gates? The list of people who have had a profound impact on our lives today goes on and on. Could any of these people have accomplished the same things without a “persistent fixation on parts of objects”? Perhaps the “lack of interest in peer relationships” is what allowed these people to stay focused.

Looking ahead, I wonder if the contributions of those who are still growing and learning to live with autism might not be the ones who could save this world. I think William Stillman says it best “I have yet to meet a person with autism who has not, in some capacity, declared their desire to give back of themselves, to share their gifts, and to teach others. In their gentle way – as befits their nature – people with autism compel us to higher standards of deference and respect for humanity.”

How would my life be different without Benjamin? How would my life be different without autism? I’m not sure I can even begin to imagine all the ways that I have changed because of autism. Would I be an advocate for those who struggle to achieve mental health? Would I understand that saying a person with autism honors the person as an individual of whom the autism is only a part of who they are? I wouldn’t know the importance of having flush toilets in this day and age of automatic toilets. I wouldn’t understand the huge difference between going to see the Titanic and going to see a museum exhibit about the Titanic. The importance of asking for a hug from your own child.

These words are from a Michael, a 15-yr old with autism. “Autism is unique to each individual. It is a side effect of the connectedness of soul. Only through a broken body can you retain your spiritual connectedness to the whole. In the body we lose all memory of our divinity. It is for us to seek experientially in physical form our divineness. The reality is in the physical experience. Without it there would be just the “knowing” without the experience of “being.” “Being” is what life is all about. God gives us the choice of what we want to experience. These choices direct our lives. My choice was to lead people home to their source. It requires my keeping my own connection and that requires a broken body. It is the beauty of it: a whole soul is a broken body; a broken soul is a complete body. To find divinity in a whole body is a very difficult thing. People lose themselves in the physical being and nothing can permeate. All the physical is but an illusion created by the soul yet it controls the soul for its duration on earth.”

© copyright Heather Gehron-Rice 2009

Thomas Paine UU Fellowship

3424 Ridge Pike

Collegeville, PA 

Sacred Dance at 7:15 pm

Short Break (bring a snack to share if you can)

Sacred Drumming at 8:45 pm

Bring something that reminds you of autumn for the centerpiece

Members of JPD Congregations can borrow books, curricula, and videos by mail from our library. Laura Paligo of Havre de Grace, MD, is our librarian. You can reach her through Randa Todd or Anne Slater. Eventually a list of available materials will be listed here. Some have been reviewed in back issues of our newsletter: check that page!

Contact Randa or Anne to learn more.

It's easy enough for all of us to say "Be Strong."

It's another thing to put it into practice, and at the right times.

I was thinking, How Does One Do That? I think I've been able to do that by focusing on listening to The Strong Woman Within.

You have that Strong Woman Within. She thinks and she feels and she cries and she grieves, but underneath all that she knows what is necessary for you to do for YOU.

Listen to that Strong Woman. Use her strength -- to make decisions that are right, and to stand behind them. To do what you know you need to do. To gather the collective strength and wisdom of your friends and use it as yours -- because you'll surely return the favor some day when one of them needs an extra boost.

Hang in there and do what you know you need to do. Let that Strong Woman within and your Strong Friends (wherever they are) help you through this tough time.

Because once this tough time has passed, you WILL have glorious things to explore and wonder over and rejoice in. Look forward to that!

Kathy Claycomb (UU in northern Wisconsin)

Sherri writes:

I am a member of the UU Congregation of Frederick in Maryland.  I attend a women's group at the UU Congregation of Loudoun in Leesburg, VA.  I live an equal distance from the two churches in Harpers Ferry, WV.  My vocational calling is as a clinical social worker.  I've worked in mental health settings as a case manager/mental health therapist/outreach worker and as a bereavement counselor for a local hospice.  I'm in the process of starting my own private counseling practice.
 
I was first introduced to Unitarian-Universalism when I participated in a women's group at Mount Vernon Unitarian Church in the early 1990's.  This metamorphosed into another group which came together to do the "Rise Up" curriculum.  It was a close group of women who met for several years and began a tradition of yearly retreats in the Blue Ridge mountains.
 
I began attending services at the Unitarian-Universalist Church of Arlington and became a member in 1999.  I was married at the Mount Vernon church in 2000.  When I moved to West Virginia, I joined the Loudoun congregation and then moved on to the Frederick one because my family sought a larger congregation with a more dynamic RE program.

These are in PDF or MSWord format. You will need the appropriate program to view them.
January 2008
June 2007
January 2007
July 2006

2009-10 Annual Report

2006 Annual Report

October 17-19, 2008 Fall Retreat

Deep inside each of us, an ancient wisdom lies sleeping.
Our ancestors understood the divine nature of the Living Earth
and how it is that we are woven into the sacred web of life.

Our bodies still know.

During this experiential weekend,
we will use song and movement, stillness and contemplation,
storytelling, the labyrinth, altar-building,
and art-making to connect and deepen this vision.

Led by Sarah Campbell, a community herbalist in Lancaster County, PA.
(www.herbsfromthelabyrinth.com)
A priestess in the Wiccan tradition, Sarah was ordained by Starhawk.
She has been teaching women and girls for more than 15 years

Murray Grove Conference Center, Lanoka Harbor, N.J.
For further information, contact
Barbara Caballero, Registrar
Lois Morrigan

Here's a FLYER to print out and share: (PDF)

The Theme Within: Remarks

Despite (or because of?) a much smaller than anticipated enrollment, JPD W & R facilitators Randa, Laura, Alix and Margaret, two presenters and 14 other women took part in one of the most fulfilling, engaging, bonding retreats in current memory.

From Helen Popenoe, Germantown, MD

My expectation was to find enough healing to be able to face [a] problem when I returned home. I ended up coming home with much more positive energy and healing than I could’ve dreamed would be possible. The after-glowing I feel is blessing me with new lightheartedness and peace in a continuing undercurrent for my daily life, now.

The emotional climate, easy schedule and the content were exactly what I needed. A highpoint was Heather’s “just-right” service she gave us Sunday morning (especially the story about the shards of glass.) I’ve heard that story before and never quite got it until Heather put it into words.

From Alexa Fraser, Rockville, MD

I had a wonderful time. I felt welcomed by a new group of women – I only knew 2 before arriving. I think I know all now. … the sisters and cook were wonderful, the tofu was the best I EVER ate, and I loved the facility. I enjoyed learning about the women in religion movement. I really got a lot out of the workshop. I think I will use Soul Collage through the rest of my life as a tool to access those often hidden emotions!

From Pamela Mann, Pottstown, PA

The women's Retreat was an absolute, positive experience for me. The "belonging to the community" started even before we got there. My friend and I were running late because we got lost and we received a warm phone call of concern and were asked if we still wanted dinner - that some would be saved for us. I connected with every person in the group through Soul Collage and personal experiences. There was an excellent balance between structured "learning" and free time. I can honestly say that I would return in the future searching for the women I met on this special weekend and in hopes of finding new women to meet and connect through the UU faith! Thank you for a wonderful experience!

From Dana Wiley, Ardmore, PA

What a great weekend -- so glad to meet you all and share in the whole juicy, intense, and gratifying Soul Collage experience!

From Cindy Neff, Churchville, MD

I had a wonderful time and am so glad I made the effort to attend. At first I was a little nervous about fitting in, but by the end of the weekend I felt right at home! I loved the Soul Collage theme and look forward to continuing to participate in our local area. The opportunity to be in the company of such wonderful strong women...truly a sisterhood that is so valuable for making this journey through life...and such a source of encouragement and strength!

Thank you so much for the opportunity! I really look forward to the next one at the Claggett Center

2010

Wheel of the Year Beltane (May Day) ritual 5 PM on Sunday May 2, 5pm, in the Fireside Room of the River Road UU Church, Bethesda. MD.

(www.rruuc.org/Directions.html) May pole, other circle dances and the sharing of thoughts. Longer days, shorter nights--as Earth rushes toward the longest day of the year, how do we re-balance our own lives? Bring a treat &/or drink to share and your own cup. Contact:: Helen Popenoe

Alcoholism & Addiction Awareness, Prevention & Recovery Fair, Saturday August 28, 9 am to 5:30 pm, Unitarian Church of Harrisburg, PA. Go to http://www.harrisburguu.org/ and scroll down in the Upcoming Events list for further information

My poems disappeared

My poems disappeared
in an instant
in a sputter of inexplicable
electronic mayhem.

Part of my life
gone
lost
No paper copies in my files
no relics of a virtual past.

I am forced
in my poetry as in my life
to begin anew
to write a “now”,
a history yet to come.

Like ginger on my tongue
the prospect is tangy in my mind.

by Anne Slater
August 6, 1999

As she promised at GA2023, Heather Gehron-Rice has sent us a whole packet of Joseph Priestley District newsletters. What I didn't realize when we first spoke about this was that the newsletters are a complete collection of Reaching Sideways:

UU foremother Rosemary Matson wrote in her Memoirs of UUW&R, "Sara Best, a lay woman in the Joseph Priestley District Women and Religion Committee, with the help of her friends, created a journal REACHING SIDEWAYS - A Continental Exchange of Views and Ideas chronicling the successes and failures of those trying to implement the Women and Religion Resolution. It was a voice when there were very few other voices in the denomination speaking for women and it proved to be the writing of our Women and Religion story as it was being lived. Sara Best produced her first issue in October 1981 and sent out her last issue on June 15, 1991. REACHING SIDEWAYS is sorely missed."

Well, it's BACK! We've scanned and restored a few issues so far. More to come when I have time. The originals will end up in Meadville-Lombard Theological School's HEResies Special Collection in Chicago! -- Gretchen

folder Reaching Sideways 1981-1991

The Full Cupboard of Life remains my favorite of Alexander McCall Smith's books. It is philosophical, a "glass half full" story that I expect to read as often as I read The Secret Garden. (see below)-- I love books that make me cry with happiness and with the realization of just how full of peace and plenty my life really is.

The Secret of Roan Inish by Rosalie Fry is a modern day fairy tale, a great read-to-your-child story (target audience 9 and up). Fiona yearns for the peace of the island life that she and the island’s inhabitants were forced to leave, and for her baby brother, whose cradle floated away as they were leaving. As I said, a fairy tale. With a happy ending. Both book and the movie that was made of it are charming. No violence.

Night Gardening by E. L. Swann centers on the romance between an aging woman recovering from a stroke and the landscape architect who is working next door. Lots of great gardening factoids. If this had been "One Woman's Garden Journal" I would have liked it better.

The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett: an unhappy little girl, her invalid cousin, and the healing power of friendship and love. How can anyone NOT love this book? It has mystery, sadness, a nasty little girl, a couple of sympathetic secondary characters and one whiney spoiled (abandoned at home) child who gently teach Mary Lennox how to be a human being.

Submitted by Anne Slater, First Unitarian Church of Philadelphia

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